Today is....
empty...
painful...
crushing...
difficult...
I went out of town over the weekend, and I saw my parents, who are celebrating 40 years of marriage today. It was good to see them. As I left, I wished my mom a happy mother's day. She thoughtfully wished me the same and kissed me on the cheek. A few of my friends and family members sent me cards, gifts, flowers, messages (voice and electronic)....
I am appreciative of all of the love and support, but today it almost makes my heart ache more, and not less.
You see, everyone is trying so hard to remind me that I'm still a mom - even if Catelyn is an angel baby, but I'm having trouble with that.
I don't have a child here to wish me happy mother's day - not that she'd know what that means yet, anyway, at 2 years and 4.5 months old. She can't smile for me, sing me a song, hug me, blow kisses, get a little feisty, laugh, etc.
Sure, I believe that there are ways for her to let me know that she is here, but it's just not the same. It hurts. I cringe every time someone wishes me a happy mother's day. I don't feel like a mother. I feel like a failure.....a miserable failure.
Instead of having a wonderful toddler here to be herself (joyful, silly, sweet, kind, etc) and try to understand the point of 'mother's day', I only have my memories.
Honestly, I don't even remember what we did last year for Mother's day....or even the year before that.
Some mother I've turned out to be....
Anyway, this isn't really meant to be a post that brings you down, it's purpose is to give understanding of where I find myself on this day when we are meant to honor the women that have raised us.
For those of you mother's out there, happy mother's day.
For those of you who find yourself in a similar place to myself on this Mother's Day, please know that you don't have to be completely miserable today... It's certainly okay to feel what you feel, but please don't feel like you have to stay hidden away from other people. Don't be ashamed of who you are and how your life feels like it's turning out. Tell the people closest to you how you are feeling. Mostly, try to find even the smallest joy today and keep it close.
Even the smallest joy counts for something.
A most touching sentiment...I loved the last paragraph...it helps in any situation...
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